Love comes when you accept perfection, not when you hold on to it. Karin Hadadan reminds us that alignment, not despair, attracts love. In addition, by Rebecca Simon Finding God Every Day shows how trusting God’s timing paves the way—read below.
Ask anyone when they meet their partner, and you’ll often hear the same answer: “It came out of nowhere—when I least expected it.”
If you’re single, hearing this might make something inside of you want to scream. It feels wrong, even cruel. Because how can love come so easily to others, while you are left waiting, wondering, and questioning God’s timing? Pray for soul-level love. He did the inside job. You raised your standards, healed your wounds, and tried to put your life together. And yet, love feels distant, as if you’re watching it happen to everyone but you. So if someone tells you, “It happens when you least expect it,” it feels less like wisdom and more like a slap in the face—because it gives you nothing to do, nothing to control, nothing to hold you back. It confirms that love is, in fact, out of your hands.
But here are the misconceptions: those who said they were “not looking” were not fully involved in the concept of love. It’s not that love wasn’t in their hearts—it’s because they weren’t in a rush anymore.
There are two very different types of expectations when it comes to love.
The first focuses on perfection. It’s a quiet, strong thing knowing that love is coming because you’re already a version of yourself that you can’t hold back. Do the work to release what no longer serves you, increase your self-confidence, and accept unconditional love. In this place, you just wait for love—because you finally know you deserve it. This expectation is not anxiety or control. It is a sacred expectation. Whispering in your soul that, soon.
The second type of expectation comes from lack. A restless search in a crowded room for someone to lock eyes with. It checks your phone for messages that don’t arrive, sent to accept confirmation, hoping that each night will eventually come out. the night. From this energy, love feels like nothing, something to fill a void. But this kind of expectation can leave you empty, because it is born of desperation, not perfection.
The truth is, love manifests itself in strength. And when people say they met their partner when they “didn’t expect it,” what they mean is this: they were staying in their place. They were fully present in their lives, content with what was, not reaching or forcing or searching. They were happy, in fact, in the simple perfection of being themselves.
That’s the magnet. That’s the site.
So ask yourself: if you could imagine the moment you met the love of your life, what energy would you want to be in? Could it be the power of demand and scarcity? Or could it be the energy of light, satisfaction, and fullness?
Because love doesn’t come when you hold it. Love comes when you come home to yourself.
