The parts of you that feel the most broken are the ones that God holds the most
Sometimes moving forward feels like healing, but the pain persists. In Finding God Every DayRebecca Simon shows how trusting God in quiet moments can lead you to true restoration. Read more in the article to explore your healing journey.
There often comes a point in the healing process when you can no longer tell if you have really moved on, or if you just know for sure and don’t look back.
Stop talking about something that hurt you. Stop testing it, stop naming it, stop putting it in rooms that don’t exist anymore. And for a while, that silence feels like peace, like hope. You tell yourself that because you are no longer in pain, you must be cured.
But healing is not always the absence of pain, and avoidance has a way of hiding itself in unexpected ways, in ways we can’t express.
Sometimes we don’t move on — we just move on. We go back to work. We say yes to incentive programs. We are filling our calendars. We keep ourselves moving. But in quiet moments, in unguarded places, pains make themselves known. It takes the form of a word spoken too carelessly, or a memory that returns, or a part of your heart that you realize has set limits on you.
And that’s when you start to wonder – “Am I really alive, or just surviving?”
This space is soft, disturbing, and more common than most people like to admit. At the end of the day, avoidance is easier than dealing with the unresolved. It asks little of us. It feels like control. But the hard truth is that what we refuse to create often refuses to move, to heal. Unprocessed pain doesn’t just go away – it finds quiet corners to dwell on.
This is not a call to dig up everything you’ve ever buried. This is not an invitation to tear yourself apart in the name of proper or complete healing. This is a gentle reminder that you don’t have to fear what is still soft inside you. You don’t have to rush for perfection. God has no patience for your process. He doesn’t measure your progress by what you look like or how many days it’s been since you last broke up.
The treatment is not specific. It is not always visible. Sometimes, the the original success comes when you stop trying to prove you’ve passed and instead allow yourself to be true to where you are. You are allowed to feel the weight of what happened. You are allowed to have questions. You are allowed to be It continues.
You may not know if you are in a healing period, or a survival period – but the fact that you are asking means that something has changed. There is something in you that wants the truth more than the comfort of being numb. That desire, no matter how small, or how silent – is sacred.
God doesn’t need you to have the full answer. He just needs your permission to meet you in the unknown – and he will, every time.
