A faith-filled meditation on why some goodbyes are more divine than abandonment, written by Rebecca Simon, author of the book. Finding God Every Day — read on below to find out the deeper reason God may have let them go.
Some people don’t leave your life because they stop loving you — they leave because their part in your story is complete. Although it is rare to feel that it is easy when the break happens, over time, God reveals that the sorrow of the heart began to hide – that loss can be a form of protection, that absence can create a space for real alignment. This is not about blaming or glorifying what has hurt, but about understanding what was sacred in the separation. You were not abandoned, you were redirected, and the timing of their goodbyes was not arbitrary.
Here is the deep reason God let them go — based on the day you were born.
If you were born on the 1st, 10th, 19th, or 28th
God let them go because they were not meant to lead you – only to show you what needed healing. You are driven by nature, often taking responsibility for consequences that were never yours to bear. You have poured yourself into the connection, believing that your effort can compensate for their absence. But God knew that the kind of love you need is not something you build on your own. Their absence created a space for him to open up to the idea that love should be earned through strong action. You don’t need to prove your worth to be chosen. The living will meet you in the middle – in the ease, in the silence, and in the spirit.
If you were born on the 2nd, 11th, 20th, or 29th
God let them go because your tenderness is sacred, and he would not allow you to be mistreated forever. You love with your whole body – patiently, with understanding, even when it hurts, and not everyone knows what to do with that kind of depth. They misjudged your sensitivity for weakness, took you out of your light without learning how to respect you, and yet, you stayed – you hope your love will teach them how to stay, too. But God knew that he deserved more than being resurrected by someone. He knew he was meant to meet. Their abandonment was not abandonment, it was a way of divine preservation.
If you were born on the 3rd, 12th, 21st, or 30th
God let them go because they could only love a version of you that didn’t ask for your needs to be met. You have always been a magnet. You’ve always been a person full of ideas, hope, and vision – but somewhere along the line, you learned to downplay your brilliance in order to scare others. He made himself sweeter when he was made deeper. Their inability to accept your fullness was not a sign of your worth – it was the limit of their power. God let them go because he needed you to stop pretending to be small in order to be seen. The next person you crash your heart into will love you more, the next person to embrace your light.
If you were born on the 4th, 13th, 22nd, or 31st
God let them go because you would have spent your whole life holding on to something that was not meant to last. He is honest to the bone. You are focused, dedicated, and a constant. But love shouldn’t feel like work. You were doing the work of two, while they grew comfortable and oblivious to your loyalty. God saw how tired you were, and even if you would have continued to choose them, you know they were not choosing you in the same way – so He intervened. Not to punish you, but to protect you. Some goodbyes are acts of kindness that you won’t realize until you feel at peace again.
If you were born on the 5th, 14th, or 23rd
God let them go because they were not meant to be your anchor. You long for knowledge, and depth, but your curiosity is confused by chaos. He tried to show them that freedom and loyalty could coexist, but they needed control, not communication. So God took them away, because love should not feel like confinement. He needed you to know that you don’t have to sacrifice your soul to be loved well. You are allowed to change. You are allowed to want more. A good person will explore life with you – not limit you to humble yourself.
If you were born on the 6th, 15th, or 24th
God let them go because he keeps confusing to heal a person by loving him. He has a heart that sees potential pain, beauty in brokenness – but this time, it’s too expensive. He began to believe that love should always hurt a little, that maybe sacrifice is like safety. But God sees the difference, and knows that the love you were made for will never ask you to sacrifice yourself in the name of faithfulness. He let them go so that you could come home to your advantage—not as a lesson, but as a return.
If you were born on the 7th, 16th, or 25th
God let them go because their presence was beginning to cloud your understanding. You have a deep mind, and are wise beyond your years, but think of yourself for their sake. He silenced your consciousness, softened your boundaries, and God saw how much your clarity cost you. He knew that if he didn’t remove them, you would continue to compromise your soul, and your nature. You let them go so you can start trusting your word again. You didn’t need their confirmation. You needed your confidence back.
If you were born on the 8th, 17th, or 26th
God let them go because they could not meet you in your purpose. He is driven by vision more than success. You are here to build, to lead, to do something holy. But they did not understand the weight of that call. They felt threatened by your growth, resistance to your enthusiasm, and still, you tried to make it work. God saw how you dimmed your fire. He let them go so that you could enter fully into what you were born to do – without guilt, without distraction, and without diminishing.
If you were born on the 9th, 18th, or 27th
God let them go because your love had become a lifeline that they did not intend to return. You have always felt things deeply. You have always loved more than reason, and forgive even when it hurts. But this time, God needed to show you the difference between love and self-denial. They weren’t yours forever, they were your resurrection. You were never hard to love, you just gave your tenderness to someone who didn’t know what to do with it. Now you do, and that’s what will change everything going forward when it comes to matters of the heart.
