Even if your timeline hasn’t turned out the way you thought it would, your value and purpose remain the same. Rebecca Simon, in her book Finding God Every Dayit reminds us that waiting does not mean forgetting — it is a time to grow, trust, and accept the life God has given you. Read more and find out how to find joy and fulfillment in waiting.
You had a timeline.
Not in a rigid, or immovable way, but in a way that nurtures a quiet hope, in a way that instills a gentle expectation in your heart. Maybe you didn’t say it out loud, maybe you weren’t the friend who talked about marriage as if it were your ultimate goal or your most cherished dream. But still, somewhere in your mind, you thought that now you would be saying I do, you thought that now you would be sending save-the-dates, choosing clothes and building a life with the person of your choice fully, and without hesitation.
Instead, he watches other people fall in love. He turns the weddings of people who vowed never to experience that historic event. You scroll past the children’s announcements. He tries to smile through the pain when people say, “It will happen when you least expect it.” And within it all, you’re left wondering if it’s still okay to trust in something that seems so far away.
And maybe, in silence, you ask God a question that feels heavy in your heart:
“Why he didn’t what happened to me?”
You don’t ask this out of anger, or comparison. Just to be honest. In the pain of knowing that you will be a good partner deeply – that you are ready, that you are free, that you are ready to respect what love means, while you feel that love itself has passed you by. As if you were skipped, or forgotten by God along the way.
If that’s where you are, here’s your reminder:
He is not behind. He is not you forgot. And there is nothing what is wrong with you.
Marriage is a beautiful thing, but it is not the ultimate measure of your worth as a person. Being chosen by someone doesn’t suddenly make your life meaningful or purposeful. Do not wait for completion. You don’t “get stuck” until someone loves you the way you’ve always hoped to be loved. This chapter is not a placeholder, this season is not something to rush into. This is your life. This is your journey.
And it is allowed to overflow. It is allowed to be happy. It is allowed to be sacred and rich and deeply moving – even without the ring.
Still, it’s okay to be sad. You are allowed to grieve the timeline you thought you would be in now. You are allowed to grieve an eternal relationship. You are allowed to grieve the future you planned in your head immediately. God is strong enough to handle that sorrow. God will not rush you into it. He won’t disappoint you with it. He just wants to meet you in it.
You don’t have to pretend this doesn’t hurt. You don’t need to swallow the pain. You can wish for marriage and live a happy life in waiting. You can long for a partner and still respect who you are, who you are.
And maybe that’s the most sacred part—
That even in the unknown, even in loneliness, even in “unreached places” – you still choose to trust each other. You can still choose to believe that God has not forgotten you. That he doesn’t drink. That your story is not over yet. That it just seems different.
If you thought you’d be married by now, and you’re not – you are not broken. He is not behind. He is becoming.
And when love comes, when it is true and safe and approved by God himself – you will not meet it from a place of loneliness, but from perfection. From power. From a life that is already full of meaning, purpose, and grace.
Until then, may you love your presence, and your friendship. May you grow deeper in God’s love. And may you move forward, don’t just wait for someone to choose you, but remember that you have already been deeply chosen by someone who always loves you, by someone who always puts you first.
