We all have them – bad relationship habits we can’t break, no matter how toxic things get. Astrology holds up a mirror so we can not only see our relationship patterns but also learn how to break them to find lasting love. Check your sun sign below to find a relationship habit you need to break. If it doesn’t respond, check your moon and Venus signs in your birth chart, as this placement is related to emotions and romance. Here’s what your zodiac sign needs to stop to find, and keep love.
Aries: Stop Looking for the Next Best
Aries is a competitive, fast-moving sign, always looking for the next best thing and how to get it. Unfortunately, this extends to relationships, too – even if you’re part of a happy couple, you can’t help but wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. This doesn’t mean you have to settle for a bad relationship – but if you have something good going on, don’t waste it by assuming it’s always “better” out there.
Taurus: Stop Settling for What’s Comfortable
You love being in love, a gentle Taurus, and are happiest in a committed relationship. You also like to be comfortable and stick to your comfortable routine. Unfortunately, this means you can allow relationships or partners that aren’t right for you because you’d rather stick with what you know than make changes. When a relationship starts to sour, you need to reassess if you are with the right person and, if not, move on instead of clinging to your comfort zone.
Gemini: Stop Tempting People
Outgoing and charming, you can easily build a connection with anyone. And you have so many interests and sides of your personality that you want to explore, it’s hard to find one person who can satisfy all your desires. To find “the one,” you have to be real with yourself about who you are and what you want. Try making a list of the most important values, lifestyle choices, and anything you and your partner want. Instead of being who everyone wants you to be, focus on finding your true self first; then the right partner will come automatically.
Cancer: Stop Sharing Feelings With Your Partner
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t open up about your feelings, sweet Cancer. Of course you should express yourself and tell your loved one about your feelings. But you have to stop literally sharing feelings with your partner – you have to learn to separate their feelings from yours. Your strong empathy means that you often feel responsible for the feelings of other people, especially your partner. And you expect them to be empathetic, to make them responsible for your feelings. Although you are a couple, you are two separate people, and neither of you should be completely dependent on the other to feel right.
Leo: Stop always putting yourself first
This doesn’t mean you have to lose your relationship, dear Leo – some of the stars may have a hard time with that, but not you. If anything, you tend to put yourself first again more in relationships. This may be hard to hear because no one can deny that you are generous and considerate in love. But you also tend to consider your own feelings and desires before your partner’s. Ask yourself what see you really want and need before making your next move, and see how your relationship flourishes.
Virgo: Stop Trying to “Fix” Your Partner
You know you have high standards, a conscientious Virgo, and you’re not willing to settle when it comes to a partner – neither should you! But sometimes, you date people who don’t meet all your criteria because you think you can “fix” them. But the truth is, you need to match someone who has no desire to change, right from the start. Allow yourself to fall in love with a person, not their power. And if you feel in your gut that you’re not a good fit from the start, let them go early instead of trying to fix them.
Libra: Stop Avoiding Singleness
Other zodiacs struggle to get into relationships for many reasons, dear Libra, but not you! He loves being part of a couple, so much so that he often jumps from one serious love to another. But you tend to pick up on the personalities, desires, and interests of the people you date – and if you’re always with someone, you’ll never know them. You need time alone to know who you really are and what you want in life. If you are already in a committed relationship and reading this, try planning a date or going out with friends, without your partner. A little time alone can go a long way in your personal growth, and everyone knows you’re always trying to improve yourself, Libra.
Scorpio: Stop Confusing Physical Intimacy with Love
As the star sign that rules the genitals, you could be the most adorable zodiac sign, a smoky Scorpio! You also desire a deeper level of intimacy with your partner – you want to know every little thing about your partner, and for him to take the time to learn everything about you. But sometimes, you don’t think with your head, and you mistake physical intimacy for an emotional connection. And you might speed up the physical aspect of your relationship, hoping to build that deep bond you’ve been longing for. If you learn to distinguish between love and lust, and decide how to learn that difference in others, you will find “the one” you deserve.
Sagittarius: Stop Running
You love having a partner to join you on your journey, free-spirited Sagittarius, but it’s not the most important thing for you. You hate feeling tied down, and you won’t let anyone rain on your parade. When you fall in love with someone and it starts to get serious or you hit roadblocks, you tend to run. But a good relationship will not make you feel oppressed; it will make your life even bigger. Allow yourself to commit to the other person, and go through the tough times together. When you fight the urge to run away at the onset of trouble, the reward will be greater than you thought.
Capricorn: Stop Avoiding Risk
You guard your heart so fiercely, cautious Capricorn, that many people never see your soft side. But deep down you are very gentle, loving, and caring. It’s just that you rarely allow yourself to be vulnerable with others, and they’re dying to see what lies beneath your sensitive, hard surface. Take risks, share your feelings, and let people in – yes, this means you may face heartache. But your heart is stronger than you think, and without risking a break you will never find the one you deserve to hold gently forever.
Aquarius: Stop Avoiding Commitment
You hate labels, a quirky Aquarius, and you don’t feel the need to “define” your relationships in conventional ways. As a natural innovator, you don’t like traditions and want to create your own way in love. But your reluctance to label your dynamic with your partner is actually avoiding commitment. If you are in love in every sense of the word, just remove the label, you are in a relationship. It’s okay to commit to someone and define your relationship, no matter what it is for you and your partner.
Pisces: Stop Loving Everyone
Loves to be in love, Pisces is sweet, and has a limitless imagination. Unfortunately, this means that you tend to put others in the stable, you love them as your dream partner despite not knowing them at all. When you definitely find out who you really are and the illusion vanishes, so does your heart. You have to stop turning everyone into your perfect match in your mind before you learn the first thing about them. Love people for who they are, not how you see them.
