ARIES (3/21 – 4/19)
A bit of a rush.
The god of war must have something to conquer, and you, Aries, need to feel like your seductive talents are on display. He likes to make the first move, and the adrenaline that comes from taking risks and putting himself out there. These are the moments of tension and doubt that make a love story interesting. Every plot needs conflict, and it is the resolution of that conflict that you build the foundation of your relationship. Overcoming an obstacle together gives you the sense of security you need to see a future with someone, and the joy of a new beginning becomes the source of your future. You want the start to be a wild ride that you can brag about for years to come while the relationship itself is going well.
TAURUS (4/20 – 5/20)
To eat and be eaten.
There’s something about first dates that goes beyond making a good first impression, Taurus. When the circumstances are right, a good date is a way to show how much you already love someone. The effort corresponds to the level of interest. That’s why coffee makes sense to someone you’re meeting on the app for the first time, but it’s not what you want. You want a breath of fresh air”Be Our Guest” dinner and a show. You want all your senses engaged, in a way that you both will enjoy regardless of whether that spark is burning between you. But oh, boy, if it does, be aware of what a sight, sound, smell, taste and touch challenge you will experience when the air is set.
GEMINI (5/21 – 6/20)
Patience and consistency.
The beginning of a new relationship is a time of trial for you, Gemini. Your partner needs to demonstrate his ability to integrate himself into your busy life. They should earn the right to be your priority. So they need to be able to wait in line at the beginning. No matter how successful that first date was, you’re not automatically available the next day to keep that momentum going. You want someone who will always be there despite the lack of instant gratification, who doesn’t give up that you have other people and things to focus on. Someone who doesn’t expect you to drop everything once they enter your life, is a priority, VIP, pre-sale access to your calendar, and they won’t even need a specific credit card to get it.
CANCER (6/21 – 7/22)
Icebreaker.
No offense to most people in your name, Cancer, but you need someone to talk to about more than sports, tacos, or their dog on a first date. You need someone who has that heart-on-their-sleeve personality to get past your outer layer. Think of those melting chocolate ball desserts all over the internet. Someone needs that special sauce to melt your shell. There should be finesse, charm, smoothness. This person needs warm cream or hot fudge; Chopping it neatly with any old spoon will only do damage and spoil the experience. A steady, engaging self-confidence and genuine interest in yourself will do the trick to get that initial hump of small talk back to the important, meaty topics that make you who you are.
LEO (7/23 – 8/22)
Automation.
At the beginning of a relationship, Leo, you need someone who can navigate from dinner to drinks, from drinks to party, from party to karaoke, and wherever the night takes you. Someone who doesn’t worry about being dressed for the occasion, who is confident enough to show up in the unexpected as they are, put their foot forward, and enjoy what life has to offer, and most importantly what they can do you. You need someone who can get along, who won’t be intimidated by new people, places, or experiences. You are a mover and shaker in all kinds of company, and that’s because you keep an open mind and heart. The only thing that would make it better is someone to share it with.
VIRGO (8/23 – 9/22)
Eccentricity.
The more surprising, the better for you, Virgo. You are bored to tears by basic. You don’t want to go to coffee with someone and hear how seriously they take their 9 to 5 job, how much they love their spin class, or their awesome sports team. You must know the things that this person is afraid to tell anyone about. You want to hear about what they finally succeeded in after trying and failing many times, like making homemade mayonnaise or the most difficult Lego building. You just need that satisfaction of knowing that you are communicating with one person, and not spelling the face of someone you don’t know well. You have taken time to adjust and develop a unique personality, and you need to be paired with someone who has done the same.
LIBRA (9/23 – 10/22)
Diversity.
You need someone to show you experience outside of your Libra. If you are someone who likes to stay at home and catch up or watch movies on the couch, you need someone who knows how to dance or who likes to hike. If you are a big restaurant fan, you need someone who likes to cook at home. You know that the opposite is not only attractive, but increases your exposure to the world. They can lend you strength where you had some weakness, and vice versa. You need a foil to your personality, because too much of any one thing, even a good thing, can promote growth. If you’re inside an echo chamber of your own thoughts and tastes, the whole point of living with another person can be a little lost.
SCORPIO (10/23 – 11/21)
Emotional intimacy.
We know you can build chemistry with anyone, Scorpio, so at the beginning of a relationship, you really want that deep, emotional connection to feel like there’s a real future with this person. You need trust and comfort, that simple conversation, that desire to be close to them, even if it’s just sitting quietly together. All the little things that tell you this mine a person. When your intuition tells you that they are simply not impressed by your allure, your mystery, your sexual appeal, that they can already determine who you are under all those things, and that they have the persistence to cling and fill other gaps, you will allow them to reach you only by allowing someone to have a secure relationship.
SAGITTARIUS (11/22 – 12/21)
The challenge.
You like to be tested, Sagittarius. Teasing and playing and teasing. He likes to work for you in the beginning. To show someone you can pass on to. There is a time of ease, a time of consistency, but at the beginning of the relationship, you can take a little suffering. Delayed gratification, time spent analyzing your growing feelings, slow build up will give you the confidence that you need to know that this is what you want, and you can’t fully invest in a relationship until you are 100% sure of that. When people are too fast, you start to doubt, and you definitely don’t want to feel like you’re being dragged along by the current. It’s better to fight upstream knowing that your destination is the one you chose.
CAPRICORN (12/22 – 1/19)
Surrender.
You want to be offended, Capricorn. You want to know that no one else has ever wanted you the way they want you. Someone who is willing to wait on you hand and foot, wait for you if needed, do whatever it takes to find and stay in your best life. You want someone who is willing to go the extra mile, work around your busy schedule, and go the extra mile to make it work. Anything warm isn’t your style, and you’re not turned off by the heat and heavy right out of the gate. You are good at being on the receiving end of constant praise. It gives you a level of security when it comes time to restore, and that’s fine. Your partner will understand your love language needs, and create a safe space for you to express yours in return.
AQUARIUS (1/20 – 2/18)
Partnership.
You need someone to get your hands dirty, Aquarius. Someone who doesn’t get too lost in the adrenaline rush of a first date. Who can start things on a practical and practical footing. So maybe you’re throwing back fancy cocktails in a dimly lit room with velvet booths for weekend errands together. Your vegetable garden needs weeding, you need to go shopping for some furniture on a budget, or you have a few things you want to pick up at the local farmers market. You want someone who can be that constant companion every day, not just a Cinderella story that ends before a real relationship begins. For you, the beginning of the relationship should set the tone for what is to come.
PISCES (2/19 – 3/20)
Encouragement.
The beginning of a relationship needs to make you think, Pisces. You want to find someone who leaves a deep impression on you. Like a movie that shakes you in the theaters, but stays in your mind for days afterwards. One you dissect, examine, and analyze because it is complex, with nuances that you cannot see and make sense of at the same time. You want someone with density, Pisces. A person with many parts that create a strong structure. Something to be admired and seen. Getting used to it will come with time, but that first stage is all about fear and wonder. Like visiting a country for the first time and seeing a place you just learned about. What you could imagine appears in front of you in the flesh.
